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Thursday, May 21, 2015
Move Is a Four-Letter Word
What’s worse, a periodontal deep cleaning or moving 350 miles? While I’m no fan of long sessions in a dental chair, moving trumps that for prolonged discomfort. Moving is scary (the unknown), exciting (the unknown), and exhausting (the mental and physical effort). Unless your move has a corporate sponsor, i.e., your brains and experience are desperately needed in Cleveland, pronto; the muscle and money come out of your (and your S.O.’s) hide.
Nobody writes about moving because it’s so unpleasant and stressful that once done, it’s best forgotten. Yet, it is memorable. I recall a major move in my twenties from Columbus, Ohio, to Brooklyn, N.Y., in a pale blue Mustang, most of my possessions in the small trunk and back seat. Briefly, in the middle of the Pennsylvania Turnpike, I had a euphoric feeling of freedom. Then I realized the creepy guy smiling at me in the rest stop had been following me for the two hours since the last stop. D remembers his move from Toronto to New York in a “woody” station wagon, having a flat tire near Syracuse, and sleeping in the car with his beloved Rottweiler Raspberry. Moments like that get even more poignant in the remembering and retelling.
No one asks for advice these days but it flows like a river from wise and friendly sources. So here it is, my advice in preparation for the next move, which surely will come: reduce, refuse, release. Reduce your possessions to the essential; life becomes simpler. (Confession, I read Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.) Refuse to take on more stuff. New rule: no more birthday or holiday gifts that can’t be consumed; food, wine, tickets, and gift cards gladly given and accepted. Release yourself from subscribing to the consumer mentality that says x is in style and y is not. You decide. You will have more time to enjoy now, wherever that happens to be.
P.S. We’re moving from New Jersey to New Hampshire next week. I’ll check in here after June 1, but might not detail the moving ordeal (hoping that it is entirely uneventful). More logging and excavation work coming up soon on the mountainside.